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2018-05-13 13:19栏目:南京
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  论孩子(节选)
 
  你们是弓,你们的孩子是从弦上发出的生命的箭矢。
 
  那射者在无穷之间看定了目标,也用神力将你们引满,使他的箭矢迅速而遥远的射了出来。
 
  让你们在射者手中的弯曲成为喜乐吧。
 
  因为他爱那飞出的箭,也爱了那静止的弓。
 
  ——卡里尔?纪伯伦
 
  冰心译
 
  有这样一群人,他们从家乡小城出发,像纪伯伦诗歌里所描述的那样,成为母亲这把弓射的又快又远的箭,飞向更远的远方。
 
  纽约、伦敦、多伦多、普林斯顿,曾经的远方现在已成为他们生活多年的城市,他们在这些城市学习、工作、娶妻生子,可无论走多远,他们始终走不出母亲的注视,他们始终眷恋着人生旅途的起点、母亲生养自己的地方。
 
  在这个母亲节,他们望着家乡的方向,提笔写下一封给母亲的情书,抒写在另一座城的生活,也抒写对家城的眷恋;而多年不写字的母亲们也重拾纸笔,诉说孩子们离开后家里的变化,也诉说想念。
 
  在这个母亲节,他们用书信这种古老的方式来表达思念、沟通和情谊,把最温暖的一束阳光重新照进内心深处那个最柔软的角落。
 
 
  第一封信,来自美国。
 
 
  Jim徐
 
  1996年11月出生于江苏南京,美国加州大学圣迭戈分校大三学生
 
 
  亲爱的妈妈:
 
  祝您母亲节快乐!
 
  今年是我出国的第三年了,也是第三次没有和您一起过母亲节。借此机会,向您献上我的祝福:祝妈妈节日快乐,永远年轻,工作顺利,天天开心!
 
  其实,以前我总是记不住这个属于妈妈的节日。我总是要通过社交网络,看到别人都在给妈妈送祝福的时候才恍惚间想起,原来今天就是母亲节啊。
 
  我还记得妈妈您当年亲自送我到美国念书,临别时,我说,不要哭哦,我会好好的。但我知道,在坐上车的那一刻,您还是默默地在流眼泪。
 
  您和爸爸不一样,不常把感情和思念挂在嘴边,但我知道您对我的想念和担心,丝毫都不比爸爸少。可能我跟您一样吧,不擅长表达感情和思念。虽然我们每周只能视频通话两次,但是我总觉得这段视频通话的时间有魔力,能帮我扫去一周的阴霾,就算很累,或是考试很多,或是发生了很多烦心事,和您视频通话聊天,听您说家里的事,很开心。
 
  妈妈,还想请您原谅,有时候我会对您发脾气,这是我做的不对。
 
  妈妈,还想请您放心,您说的话我都记得住。妈妈,还想让您知道,我也会想念您和爸爸。
 
  最后,再次祝您节日快乐,希望您能过一个开心快乐的母亲节。也请妈妈不要忘记祝外婆节日快乐哦,哈哈。
 
 
  Jim
 
  2018年5月9日
 
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  Dear mom,
 
  Happy Mother’s Day!
 
  This is my third year abroad and the third Mother’s Day that we can’t celebrate together. I wish you a happy Mother’s Day and may you stay young forever!
 
  Frankly speaking, I always forgot this festival in the past and didn’t realize it was Mother’s Day until I saw others sending wishes on social media. I still remember the time when you came to America and sent me to school. Before you left, I said, don’t cry, I will take care of myself. But I knew you were shedding tears quietly when you got on the car. Unlike dad, you don’t talk a lot about feelings or how much you miss me. But I know you miss and worry about me just as much as dad does. Perhaps I’m like you when it comes to expressing my feelings and love. We talk through video calls only twice a week. But for me, our conversations have the magic power to shake off the gloom of the whole week. No matter how tired I am, just talking with you and listening to you talking about matters at home will cheer me up again.
 
  Mom, please forgive me for losing my temper at you sometimes. This is my fault.
 
  Mom, don’t you worry about me because all your words are on my mind.
 
  Mom, I also want you to know that I miss you and dad too.
 
  At last, happy Mother’s Day again! I wish you a happy and joyful Mother’s Day. By the way, don’t forget to send your greetings to grandma.
 
  Love, Jim
 
  May 9, 2018
 
  圣迭戈位于美国加州西南部,是美国的第六大城市。那里海湾崎岖、风景优美,更因发达的无线通信和生物科技产业而出名。
 
 
  跨越14000多公里,思念和爱画出一道长长的弧线。弧线的另一头连接的正是Jim的家乡南京,和亲爱的妈妈Queena。
 
 
  Hi,宝贝:
 
  尽管你现在已经是上大三的小伙子,也有了自己的“宝贝”girl,但老爸老妈还总爱喊你宝贝,因为在我们眼里,你永远是我们最爱的宝贝。
 
  前几天我在老房子里整理东西,翻着一本本相册,看着你从一个“丑丑”的baby慢慢长成帅气的大男孩,自顾沉浸在幸福回忆中竟然忘记了去老房子的真正目的?。
 
  从小到大,你和老妈最亲,出去玩时总是粘着要“妈妈抱”,晚上睡觉也要老妈陪着讲故事,老爸一出差你就会高兴地把自己的小枕头抱到大床上...,那时候老爸可没少吃咱俩的醋?。那些时光多么美好,陪你长大的每一天老妈都幸福得像花儿一样,现在每次想到你小时候的点点滴滴我都会不由自主地咧开嘴角。
 
 
  时间总是过得太快,不经意间你就长大了,从一个乖巧听话的小娃娃变成了独立自主的大男孩。不知从何时起你有了自己的小秘密,不再与老妈分享心事,当知道你有了女朋友之后,一向自诩洒脱开明的老妈我竟然有了些许失落,我终将要慢慢退出你人生舞台……但是宝贝,不管你长多大,不管你以后走多远,老爸老妈永远是你坚强的后盾,家永远是你停靠的港湾。
 
  转眼间宝贝出国留学已经三年了,每周末的视频,成了老妈每周最期盼和最开心的时间,我会絮絮叨叨地说着无聊的琐事,你也会简单地汇报学习和生活状况,平时你微信上哪怕简单的一句“我在学习”也让我安心。
 
  在你和老爸眼里,我是个不靠谱的幼稚老妈,有时我也会自责地想我是不是一个称职的妈妈,除了每天照顾你吃穿之外,我好像从来没有过多地关注过你的学习,尽管偶尔你考得不好的时候我会生气,也会时不时拿你和姐姐比较,但更多地是放手。
 
  从你决定出国留学开始,所有的准备工作都是你自己在做,培训机构及留学中介全部由你自己选择,甚至整个申请过程我和你老爸竟然都没和老师有过一次沟通,相比较其他家长在其中付出的心思,我真怀疑自己是不是亲妈。但是我很开心宝贝没有因为我的放任不管而放松对自己的要求,你清楚地知道自己的目标并为之努力,对自己的学业有清晰的规划。
 
  同时,你是一个懂得感恩,孝敬长辈的孩子,你会时不时提醒我对外婆要有耐心,要学会倾听,不要让老人生气。那你也要对老妈有耐心哦,你有时对我耍小脾气我也会很不开心,老妈我也有颗玻璃心哦~。
 
  宝贝,在外一定要注意安全,安全永远放在首位!另外,认真完成学业的同时加强身体锻炼,有了强壮的体魄,丰富的学识,才能做个有中国灵魂、世界胸怀的中国留学生!
 
  永远爱你的老妈
 
  2018年5月9日
 
  Hi baby,
 
  Although you are already in the third year of university and have your own “baby” girlfriend, I and your dad still like to call you baby. For us, you will always be our favorite baby.
 
  Ever since you were a little boy, you have been closest to me. When we went out, you were very clingy and constantly asking me to pick you up. Every night before going to sleep, you would ask me to tell you bedtime stories. How happy and beautiful were those days! I was on the top of the world every day watching you grew.
 
  The time always flies and before I realized, you have grown from a bright and cute little boy into an independent and strong young man. I can’t remember since when you have started keeping secrets and stopped sharing your thoughts with me. I had always proclaimed myself to be big-hearted and open-minded. But when I knew you had a girlfriend, I felt somewhat lost, knowing I would gradually retire from the stage of your life. However, my baby, no matter how old you are and how far you go, mom and dad will always be your solid supporters and our home will always be your safe harbor.
 
  In the blink of an eye, you have been studying abroad for three years. Our video chats every weekend become the most anticipated and delightful part of my life. Sometimes, I feel guilty for failing to be a qualified mother. I keep you clothed and fed but haven’t paid much attention to your study. But I’m glad to see that you haven’t lowered the standards on yourself despite my loose parenting. You know your goal exactly and have been working towards it with a clear plan. At the same time, you are grateful and caring for the elderly. Every now and then, you will remind me to be patient with grandma and be a good listener.
 
  My baby, take care of yourself when being away from home. Study hard and take more exercise. Only with good health and rich knowledge, can you be a student with Chinese soul and global vision!
 
  Love you forever,
 
  Mom
 
  Now君有话说
 
  Jim给妈妈的信里说:“妈妈和爸爸不一样,不常把感情和思念挂在嘴边。”然而,这位仿佛和爸爸拿错了剧本的妈妈在信中流露的爱确实那么的真实自然。也许她对记忆中的小男孩的依恋、和现在“幼稚”的嫉妒,只不过是还不敢相信,时间过得这么快,儿子已经长大啦!
 
  这对不习惯高调的母子,一再要求不要出现本名。Jim的爸爸徐先生对Now君说,很感谢“双城记&两地书”这个策划,看了母子俩的信,简直要重新认识儿子和爱人了。
 
  嗯,可能我们都要借一个机会,停下来,想一想,去沟通,去表达,给彼此一个拥抱,流一流眼泪,或者笑一笑,然后继续投进忙碌的人潮中,过得认真又辛苦。但是,有着满满的爱。
 
  爱的表达,其实无关节日,它是母亲节这一天大声说出的“妈妈我爱你”,更延续在我们所度过的每一个平凡的日常。
 
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